'Twas 8 years ago today that Stephen & I were married. A DIY wedding for sure. A rented tent in S's mother's back yard created the venue for both the ceremony and the reception. It also sheltered us from the rain, alas many a shoe were ruined with mud.
We rented the tux and the dress, made our own wine and food, had no photographer or decorations. I bought my bouquet from the Atwater Market the morning of the wedding.
Many people pitched in with baking desserts, making food, lending cars, hosting guests, playing bartender. Many of these people are still part of our lives and support network. I am grateful to have that.
The reception was karaoke/dancing, which to many people's surprise was fun.
I was 21.
If I had to do it again, I would get married older and have a more traditional wedding.
But as the circumstances were, we were young, had no money and less life experience. I'm proud that we were true to what we knew and the values that we shared. Our expectations for the wedding day were not high.
That should bear some reflection on the relationship no?
We are still laid back, good at living on a budget and still enjoy firing up a karaoke machine.
But unlike the wedding day, our expectations for our relationship continue to be high.
I see 8 years as just the beginning.